Wherein Sal spins a tangent with people pissed at him:
3278:
3278 wrote:Yeah, but I don't like him. Is it okay if I'm not always nice to people I don't like?
Of course not. I am very, very rarely nice to people I don't like. But I do try to at least be respectful, and I expect others - particularly those I consider friends - to do so as well. That's what your second response to Deev in this thread lacked. (Your first was, in my oh-so-humble opinion, fine, for the record.)
And I /don't/ think he's right in this case, which is why I disagreed with him. It's amusing that /I'm/ the one being "snarky" when I quote a reply of his that no one considered "snarky." I appreciate your trying to be my conscience, but the simple fact of the matter is, I'm going to treat people the way I think they deserve to be treated, and DV8, in my opinion, deserves to be treated with snarkyness, for many reasons, not the least of which is the manner in which he treats me, which you've only condemned when you've soundly placed the guilt on both of us.
Of course I placed the guilt on both of you; you were both being assholes. His "Or not," was just as snarky and unnecessary as yours. Two wrongs and whatnot, unless they involve physical violence.
I'm pretty tired of stupid people being stupid, and no one calling them on it, while I'm an asshole for saying true things in a manner people don't like to hear.
Point 1: Saying things in an unnecessarilly rude/offensive manner is sort of the definition of an asshole, regardless of the veracity of the statement. Finding the girl who gave me such hell first semester and telling her new boyfriend she's a slut would make me an asshole, even though it's true, and I'd probably get the shit knocked out of me. Such is life.
In general, I do not find your manner unnecessarilly rude or offensive, though you are somewhat brusque (extended conversations with Cain being the obvious exception.)
Point 2: Deev ain't stupid. He's probably overly defensive, but given how much you and I and, on occaision, Marius, slapped everything he said down, I'd say it's warranted. An unwillingness to converse with someone who you know is just going to attack whatever you say isn't stupidity, it's common sense.
I know you guys have some personal issues and history that occured off-board, things which have led to a mutual lack of respect. And, hey, that's cool. I don't know what happened (although it's not particularly hard to guess the rough outlines) and it's really not my place to tell you that said lack is unjustified. However, I do expect people here to treat each other with a modicum of dignity. I said much the same thing when people were endlessly bitching at Ancient and Evan, trying to drive them away; I see no compelling reason not to do so when you're acting similarly to Deev.
(And, yes, I know, I did the same thing with Cain, though not until he started pi-ing.)
Liniah:
Liniah wrote:Ok, if that's not clear enough, I'll elaborate.
Yeah, see, it isn't. Because you're exactly what 32 was talking about: had I said "We should end Affirmative Action, and tough luck to blacks that can't get a job without because they're uneducated," I have absolutely no doubt that you'd have roundly lambasted me for it (or remained silent and thought I was an insensitive fool.) I remember you loudly complaining about the military recruitment process aiming at inner-city black kids, a place which
will educate you,
will instill discipline and
will employ you (and aid you in finding employment after your term is up.) When you applaud Cosby for telling blacks to quit blaming The Man and to find a way, and then get upset at the government for both providing a way and making that fact known to the people who need it, well, I have difficulty believing that you'd tell Average White Guy that they "kick ass" for saying the same things Cosby said.