Bulldrek v3.0

So... Things are going well with my lady friend, but while we were discussing our fantasies, she brought up one, and it was almost spot on for what I want too. Buuut... I'm not sure how to do the tie-ups, and since I know we have atleast ONE experienced perv, I figured, where else to go to but my Bulldrek family.

So Sin, any advice?

There are websites-they can literally take you through it step by step. S&M pretty much bores me, but after reading this I did a search on Google and literally found dozens of websites with step by step pictures and videos. I mean you can learn to fix a washing machine online, why not this?

Serious Paul wrote:There are websites-they can literally take you through it step by step. S&M pretty much bores me, but after reading this I did a search on Google and literally found dozens of websites with step by step pictures and videos. I mean you can learn to fix a washing machine online, why not this?

If you screw up while fixing your washing machine, the machine doesn't press charges.

That said, I'm not an expert by any stretch, but I'd definitely council taking it slow. Start simple and work from there.

Start slow, and communicate well.

More specifically, it really depends on what you're looking for. If she just wants to be tied to the bed and fucked, then that scenario kind of writes itself: get some rope and go to town. I'm sure you can at least tie a knot. If you don't have a sturdy headboard, feeding the rope under the bed can work alright. Nylon's nice, and cheap; silk's a bit more expensive, and not necessarily "bondage-y" enough for some tastes. Some people use ties and belts, but they tend to rip and tear. Para chord is pretty similar to the ropes you'll find in sex shops, and super cheap and easy to work with. Make sure to wrap it around her wrists or ankles or whatever a couple times before you tie it; this makes it more difficult to get out of, and less likely to tear the skin. If you happen to be interested in shibari, though, a special sort of rope is required.

Now, if her/your tastes are more exotic, well, the greater internet is your friend. Sit down together, and browse through one of the many online stores catering to this stuff. That's a good way to get an idea about what's possible and what's available. And there are, of course, a million resources, from tutorials to forums, out there. The BDSM community on the internet is massive.

And, whatever you do, don't buy any fuzzy handcuffs. Fuzzy handcuffs are to BDSM what Justin Bieber is to music. Don't buy cheap handcuffs in general, really: the real thing is so much sturdier, more reliable, and just sexier.

Also, don't confuse the BDSM and washing machine tutorials in the middle of activities. No really. Don't. The washing machine will NEVER call you back.

Hm, so paracord can work? How exotic can you get with paracord? I've been looking at TwistedMonk.com for tutorials on some simple tie-ups, and their full body harness appeals to me.

Bonefish wrote:Hm, so paracord can work? How exotic can you get with paracord?

If you want something that will burn the shit out of your partner, yes. I carry 550 cord handcuffs as a standard item on my assault vest (small, light, eminently useful for the live ones on the objective.) But people try to get out of them and have nasty burns when you untie or cut them off. It's thin, abrasive cord.

Oh THIS isn't going to end well.

That washing machine is never going to call him back either.

If you're going to do ropes, theres a lot to worry about. But I can recommend one thing: Siccors. Like, for easy quick release. And not the good quick release.

Start slow, start with fuzzy handcuffs. Some people find thats erotic enough, and the rest can be a bit scary. Thats the way with my girlfriend, atleast.

Are you going to go for the full shibari bondage or are you going to keep it simple and just tie her to the bedpost and do whatever it is you do.

Well, I guess as long as he doesn't try to hang himself from a drop ceiling with it, he'll be okay.

Can we just get this out in the air? Bone is the one wanting to be tied up. Specifically face down on a public park bench.

There, I said it. Discuss.

Bonefish wrote:Hm, so paracord can work?

I can't really help you with tying up the willing - not really my thing - but I can definitely help you with rope. My advice on that would be: don't use paracord. Not in its base form, anyway: it's just too thin, and won't hold weight for long without the kind of discomfort people usually aren't into. [Some people are: you just have to ask/try.] What you can do, if paracord is your thing, is braid it, preferably more than once; you're trying to balance pliability [for tying knots] with load-distribution [for not cutting lady up].

My advice? Get a good length of decent-sized twisted - not braided, twisted - rope, in cotton or silk. Curtain ties are often used. They spread load well, are tough enough to pull against, and if you leave yourself enough length, aren't too tough to tie. Also, it'll be useful even if she's all like, "Nope, that wasn't for me."

SumDumQuim wrote:Can we just get this out in the air? Bone is the one wanting to be tied up. Specifically face down on a public park bench.

There, I said it. Discuss.

It's like I'm at work....

Bonefish wrote:

So Sin, any advice?

I teach by demonstration. Your welcome to swing by the house and I will be more than happy to demonstrate on her for you...

It's really a shame we don't have a TMI thread...

You can get handcuffs that link with carbine hooks, making for quick repositioning.

If it's the restraints more than the ropes and knots and such, I found a simple set of under-bed cuffs and straps worked pretty well - around $30 on Amazon. This one, I think.